Downsizing

Downsizing has been the hardest thing ever! I am reminded of the wife in the movie, Downsizing, who when the time came refused to go through with it. In fact, she divorced her husband. At the time I thought “What a selfish woman!” Now, I understand her dilemma. Imagine having to go through and get rid of most of the things in your life? What do you choose to take with you? It has been doubly hard because we haven’t been able to get into the house yet and measure anything. I know that our dining table is going to be too big right off the bat but I have no idea at this moment if I need to buy a new bed or if I can take mine with me. 

Another issue is that for whatever reason my uncle isn’t doing any downsizing of his own. My mother and I have sold a bunch of things and gotten rid of a bunch of things. He is planning on taking all of his stuff which includes a tent/carport thing full of tools. He did sell his four wheeler that he can’t use in town and honestly doesn’t need to be on at his age. That’s it. This has left my mother very upset and having a hard time dealing with things. She feels like she is giving up everything while he makes no sacrifice. I don’t know why he doesn’t seem to want to downsize but he doesn’t. 

We have been having arguments over the television because I don’t think we need the big one in the living room of the new place. I think it will be too big and take up too much room. He tells me I don’t understand how big the house actually is. I do, it is 850 square feet and that is not all open space. I think he is misunderstanding the size. 

More than that though, my mother cried the other night because all of her stuff is either gone or in storage. She had a large collection of whatnots and I refused to allow her to get rid of them, so I put them into storage. She said she has nothing left while he has everything. This is going to breed resentment but I can’t seem to make him understand that. I don’t blame her for being upset. I cried as I got rid of books that I spent the last twenty years collecting but I just don’t think there will be room. So what do I do? I have been praying on it. I don’t know how to make her feel better about things nor do I know what to say to make him understand that we are all making sacrifices in this new life.